The Holy Spirit; Our Seal

Our last verse about grieving the Holy Spirit ended with this thought, “By whom [the Holy Spirit] you were sealed for the day of redemption” (Eph 4:30).  Similarly, Paul wrote in chapter one, “Having also believed, you were sealed in Him [Jesus Christ] with the Holy Spirit of promise, who is given as a pledge of our inheritance” (Eph 1:13-14).  What does it mean to be “sealed” by the Spirit of God?

In Bible times, a seal was a common device that bore a design, a name, or some other words.  It was made to impart an impression in relief upon a soft substance like clay or wax.  When the clay or wax hardened, it permanently displayed the impression of the seal.  The most common seals were finger rings, and every person of standing had a personal seal.

A seal could indicate several things.  It denoted ownership.  It confirmed authenticity.  Your seal showed that you indeed were the one who completed the transaction.  A seal was a means of protection for books and documents (and even tombs) to not be tampered with.  It also demonstrated deputed authority.  When someone gave you their signet ring, their seal, you now carried their authority.

All of these uses for a seal give us a beautiful picture of the Holy Spirit in our lives.  When you embraced the gospel message of Jesus Christ, you were given the Holy Spirit as a seal.  You now belong to God’s family, and the indwelling Holy Spirit is evidence of that.

We are “owned” by the Father; we belong to God.  This salvation is authentic; His seal of the Spirit indicating that the transaction has indeed been completed.  And like a seal of protection, the Spirit is your means of protection; empowering you to overcome the world, the flesh, and the devil.

An interesting difference between the seal of the Holy Spirit and a physical seal is just that.  The Holy Spirit is not a physical seal that you can see.  It is an invisible person who lives in you.  Just like the wind, you can feel and experience His effects, but you can’t really put a physical finger on it.  “The wind blows where it wishes and you hear the sound of it, but do not know where it comes from and where it is going; so is every one who is born of the Spirit” (Jn 3:8).

I think it is significant that this seal is invisible to our physical senses.  In many believers, the Spirit’s presence is obvious in their practice of its fruit.  In others, for various reasons, the Spirit is suppressed, or quenched, or grieved.  But the Spirit is still present.  Our role is not to evaluate who is in or out based on our observations as much as continue to plant seeds of faith.  So that those far from God may come close and accept His invitation of salvation.  And so those of small faith can grow in trust and expression of God’s Spirit.

The amount of faith – an important part of living the Christian life – is not critical to our initial salvation.  Who our faith is in is the critical decision.  It is our faith in Christ for the forgiveness of our sins that joins us to God’s family.

And that membership in His family is a permanent arrangement; waiting to be revealed at “the day of redemption”.  Either the redemption of all of us at the second coming of Christ, or your personal day of redemption when your soul leaves your physical body and flies to be with Jesus forever.

Grieving the Spirit

As we continue our conversation from Ephesians chapter 4 about putting on the new self, we come to this admonition, “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption” (Eph 4:30).  How do we bring grief to the Holy Spirit?

In the context of Ephesians chapter 4, I think one of the primary ways we grieve the Holy Spirit is to not believe all that Scripture teaches about His presence and work in our lives.  Or to press a little deeper, maybe it is not so much about what we say we believe, but rather do we live like He is an active presence inside you and me?  Do we live like we believe it?

God has promised incredible power and peace in our lives through the Holy Spirit’s indwelling.  When we fail to believe or act on these promises, we bring grief to the God that lives inside.

“Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out saying, ‘If any man is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink.  He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, “From his innermost being shall flow rivers of living water.” ‘  But this He spoke of the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified” (Jn 7:37-39).

In this passage, the Holy Spirit within is described as a river (Greek word POTAMOS; translated flood, torrent, or river).  Figuratively speaking, the Holy Spirit within you and me is likened to a powerful river anxious to break free and flood our lives.  But all too often, we put flow-restrictors in the Spirit’s path.

Remember back to the seventies and the first efforts at conserving energy, water, etc?  All the apartment building superintendents installed flow-restrictors in the shower heads to conserve water.  As the white knight in my new marriage, I took it upon myself to remove the flow-restrictors at every opportunity to provide us the shower of power we enjoyed.

What about the flow of the Spirit in your life?  Have we put flow-restrictors in the Spirit’s path?  Coming full circle to how we grieve the Holy Spirit, I think unbelief is the number one flow restrictor we allow, and it slows down the Spirit’s power.

Unbelief is a huge issue to God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.  Unbelief is what kept the children of Israel out of the promised land.  “And so we see that they [the children of Israel] were not able to enter [the promised land] because of unbelief” (Heb 4:19).

The author of the book of Hebrews goes on to explain how unbelief keeps the present-day believer away from God’s rest; the peace and power given us through His Spirit.  Faith, on the other hand, brings us into the promised land of power and freedom that comes through the Spirit.  This is the promise.  Believe it and act upon it; and you will bring joy, not grief, to the Holy Spirit.

Words of Life

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear” Eph 4:29.  Words that edify, words that build up are words that “meet the need of the moment”.  And words that meet the need of the moment are words that deliver “grace to those who hear”.

We often think of grace as a theological concept or only related to salvation.  But grace is a practice and a way of life.  We all face crossroads in our interaction with each other where we have a choice to make.  Are we going to offer grace or deliver condemnation?  Are we going to speak words of life or words of death?

Jesus came to earth “full of grace and truth” (Jn 1:14).  Jesus personified grace.  Jesus exemplified grace in practice.  And one of the ways Jesus delivered grace was through His words of life.  In John chapter 6, Peter affirms that Jesus has the words of life.  And I believe these words were not just words of eternal life; but words of affirming life as well.

When we speak to our spouse, our children, our friends; do we extend words of life or death?  Do we give life to someone’s thoughts?  Do we give life to someone’s feelings?  Do we give life to someone’s dreams?

Or do we deliver death to a dream (“that will never happen”), or death to a thought (“you are wrong in thinking that”), or death to a feeling (“you shouldn’t feel that way”)?  Words that extend grace and meet the need of the moment are life-affirming, relationship-affirming, and value-affirming.

Does that mean our words are always rosy?  Does that mean we never use words of correction or disagreement?  Not at all.  Words that graciously meet the need of the moment can be just that; words of correction or disagreement.

What makes these words gracious is how we communicate them.  It means correcting our children in ways that demonstrate respect rather than shame.  When we correct our kids, we need to always make clear, “You have made a mistake.”  But we never say or imply, “you ARE a mistake.”  We can say, “You have done something wrong.”  But never, “you ARE something wrong.”

With our spouse, it means disagreeing in ways that demonstrate respect not dismissiveness.  It means communicating in ways that seek to understand each other’s view.  Early in our marriage, my communication style was more about convincing Rhonda that I was right rather than understanding her thoughts.  By God’s grace, Rhonda and I are moving forward in hearing each other.  And it makes our words life-affirming even in the hard discussions.

The choice is in your hands.  Words that affirm, edify, and build up or words that harm, squash, and destroy.  The decision is up to you.

The Power in Our Words

As we all know, the words we use carry enormous power; for good or for evil.  And it is the topic of our next verse.  “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, that it may give grace to those who hear” Eph 4:29.

The word translated “unwholesome” here literally means “rotten”.  Speaking words that are rotten is speaking words that bring death, not life, to a given situation.  Rotten words bring discouragement, not joy to a spouse, child, or friend.  Speaking words that are rotten bring shame and insult instead of respect and appreciation to those under our influence.

Our five children are all grown and married.  Some of them now have children of their own.  They live all over the country from Colorado Springs to Boston to Houston to Dallas to Aledo, Texas.  I point this out because even at these great distances, they are a very loyal company of brothers and sisters.  And I trace that loyalty straight back to their mom.

When our children were growing up, Rhonda had – and still has – an incredible instinct for seeing the road ahead.  And one of the insights she zeroed in on was that sibling rivalry would be a killer to the family loyalty we sought to develop.  So we worked on a plan to minimize sibling rivalry.  Our goal was to go beyond just teaching our kids to “get along”.  We wanted to stretch them to the next level of actually enjoying and being an encouragement to each other.

At the heart of this effort were the words Rhonda taught our children to use in their everyday interactions with each other.  They simply were not allowed to use words of insult, words of hate, words that were dismissive, or words of oppression over each other.

The reward for this focus has been a loyal and connected family even into our kid’s adult years.  The brothers and sisters truly love each other.  Even with their new locations and varying family needs and situations, they miss each other when one is away from a gathering.  We humbly recognize that this loyalty, and unity, and love is a clear gift from God.  But as parents who lead, God uses our efforts to contribute to the outcome.

Now all of this focus and instruction on how our kids were allowed to talk to each other would have fallen on deaf ears if Rhonda and I did not practice what we preached.  We were careful in our own words to be affirming and life-giving.  Rhonda in particular as the one at home was such an influence  with her words.  And these words of edification did not go unnoticed by our kids.

Recently two of our children were at Annie’s house in Aledo for a random visit.  They sent their mom a selfie of the three of them with big smiles on their faces.  The accompanying text was a thank you for something specific that Rhonda had taught them growing up.  For them to take the time to acknowledge Rhonda’s gift to them from years ago was a beautiful reward for her earlier investment in them.

Now, there were times when Rhonda or I chose hurtful words in anger.  When we did, we admitted it and expressed apologies to each other or to our children.  The offense was talked about and forgiven.  Even this was part of teaching our kids that our words matter.

We have just scratched the surface of the power and joy hidden in the words of this verse about our speech.  We will explore some other aspects of words that edify next time.

Working to Share

“Let him who steals steal no longer; but rather let him labor, performing with his own hands what is good, in order that he may have something to share with him who has need” (Eph 4:28).  For quite some time, this verse has informed my approach to work.

Through our work, God has given us both the opportunity and the responsibility to redirect wealth from the world’s system to God’s kingdom.  That is, one of the purposes in earning money through our work is to reinvest our earnings into the needs of those around us.  Have you ever thought about work that way?  This is literally “laboring, performing what is good, in order to have something to share with the one who has a need.”

What does this look like in action?  On the work side, it behooves us to do our work with excellence.  Of course, we are not always promised higher pay for better work.  But generally speaking, excellence in our work will lead to greater income.  Likewise, as much as we have influence over it, we should not sell ourselves short; giving our services away for less than they are worth.  Again, we do not always have control over this, but there is no error in seeking our highest income potential.

Because, as the Bible makes clear in several passages and parables, we are not working to just accumulate for our own comfort.  Accumulating wealth for accumulating sake is never condoned.  Building bigger barns to hoard our wealth is a great foolishness to quote our Savior.  So aspiring to greater income only has value as we share the results generously.

This leads to the sharing side of the equation; a side that is just as important, or more so, than the earning side.  And this sharing side can take many forms.

It may be what is thought of as traditional philanthropic giving to church ministry or missions or meeting social needs.  But it may also be meeting practical needs for our family and friends.  Giving an extended family member a car.  Buying groceries for your neighbor who is between jobs.  Absorbing the cost of hospitality in your home.  Acts of kindness and generosity, large or small, all fit into this category of redirecting wealth from the world’s system to God’s kingdom.

And God’s kingdom is also right there in your immediate family.  It may be helping your adult child buy a car to allow them to get back and forth to their new job.  It may be paying for college or specialized training for your teenager.  It may even be remodeling your kitchen to raise the joy factor in your home.  There is so much variety available to us to reinvest in people with our work earnings.

I just want to emphasize again that “sharing with him who has need” is as variable as the people God has brought into our lives.  It is as creative as you can conceive it to be.  It is most of all an attitude of generosity.  And it is a great motivator to go to work and “labor so that we have something to share”.