We covered the various time categories that get “squeezed” when children join the mix. We also talked about the time we invest in our families. We emphasized that family time is not babysitting or childcare; it is investing in our children’s future and our legacy.
Let’s wrap up our discussion with a few thoughts about work. It is easy to find our significance in our work. I think this is especially true if we feel unqualified or uncomfortable on the home front. But rest assured, God has qualified and gifted you to be a success as a husband and father. Everything you were given at your new birth – a new heart, a new identity, a new power, a new disposition, a new Spirit, a new nature – are available to you to invest in your family.
I think sometimes those of us in ministry to fathers sound like we are negative toward work when we address the topic of overwork or finding our significance only in our work. Work is a good thing. In fact, we have posted previously four biblical reasons to go to work. Our goal is to learn the balance between doing our work with excellence while at the same time not becoming totally wrapped up in our work.
One principle that has been helpful to me is the idea that “You may feel indispensable at work; you are indispensable at home.” Don’t give everything you have at the office. Save some time and energy for your family. Not to denigrate the importance of the work you do, but there is probably someone who could step in and do your job in a pinch if you were not there. There is no one to “step in” at home. You are it. And your presence and influence are indispensable to your family. You are the one. Remember, you may feel indispensable at work; you are indispensable at home.