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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #30

Surprise!  We came up with number thirty so that all you even number types could finish the series with a sense of closure.  Enjoy and thanks for joining us. 30.  Build family unity.  I am not so sure if this … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #29

29.  Develop a healthy pride in being part of something bigger than themselves.                      A group of tourists went to visit a marble quarry in western Vermont.  As their tour progressed around the quarry, one of the visitors called out to a … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #28

28.  Celebrate life.  When we celebrate life, our Christian experience becomes characterized by joy, not by the disappointments this earthly life has to offer.  Financial stress, physical setbacks, fickle friends, difficult schoolwork, etc. bring plenty of challenges to adults and … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #27

27.  Teach your children to serve others.  One of the inherent dangers of all these affirming efforts is an unhealthy pride that can infiltrate your family.  How do we tell our children they are special without puffing them up?  How … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #26

26.  Reward effort, not results.  Early in his navy career, former President Jimmy Carter applied for service in the U. S. Navy’s nuclear submarine program.  Here is his account of his interview with Admiral Hyman Rickover, head of the program … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #25

25.  The importance of physical touch.  We know, both instinctively and through child development research, that babies who are held, hugged, and kissed are generally more emotionally healthy than those left for long periods of time without physical contact.  And … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #24

24.  Laugh with your children.  “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones” (Prov 17:22).  One of the ways to keep a joyful heart in your home is to look for joy in the … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #23

23.  Keep your promises.  A promise is a powerful thing.  I hate to break a promise.  I have and it hurts.  Why is breaking a promise so painful?  When you make a promise, you give away a part of yourself.  … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #22

22.  A healthy diet.  Let me join the bandwagon for healthy eating.  You know it is the right thing to do.  Rhonda and I were both raised on a midwestern diet of meat and potatoes with ample sides of sugar … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #21

21.  A healthy amount of sleep.  This was a specific issue at our house because both Rhonda and I are night people.  But our night owl approach was not a good fit for our kids.  We became more sensitive to … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #20

20.  Follow a family schedule that reduces fatigue and time pressure.  On the printed page, margin is the space between the print and the edge of the paper.  In life, margin is the space between our activity level and our … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #19

19.  Encourage friendships of high character.  “He who walks with wise men will be wise.  But the companion of fools will suffer harm” (Prov 13:20).  One of our continuing prayers for our children is that they would find and connect … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #18

18.  Teach your children to communicate with adults.  One of the best ways you can prepare your kids for a confident adult life is to teach them to communicate with grown-ups.  This ability is not valued and is desperately lacking in … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #17

Well here we are, over half way there on our journey to 29 ways to affirm your children.  For you OCD types, I apologize for using the prime number of 29 in every title.  Maybe I will come up with … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #16

16.  Teach children to complete their chores.  As a follow-up to teaching children to work, we want to emphasize teaching them to finish the job.  This became an important issue at our house because Rhonda and I recognized how our … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #15

15.  Teach your children to work.  Another way we spur our children forward on the path of becoming productive and independent adults is to teach them how to work.  The irony is that despite its value, most kids are not … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #14

14.  Encourage positive character qualities.  While we may be challenged to compete or excel in the beauty, brains, and brawn pageant, we all have the ability to be honest, courteous, cheerful, loyal, enthusiastic, faithful, and much more.  The ability to … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #13

#13  Teach self-control.  One of the fruits of healthy discipline is self-control.  Children are generally motivated by a desire to have their needs and wants met right away.  They want their desires attended to pronto.  Self-control, on the other hand, … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #12

#12  Discipline in an emotionally healthy manner.  Children do not feel good about themselves when they “get away with things.”  At the same time, discipline that is arbitrary or angry is unhealthy and frustrates our children.  We encourage our kids … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #11

#11  Develop self-confidence.  Teach your children that other’s opinions of you do not determine who you are.  I made a career out of embarrassing my kids at the Olive Garden restaurant to make a point about self-confidence.  When the waiter … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #10

#10  Help your child compete.  Even though we recognize the injustice of the beauty, brains, and brawn value system, it is the world our children are growing up in.  As parents, I believe we have a responsibility to help our … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #9

#9  Teach your child to compensate.  As children grow up, their view of themselves is the product of two important influences.  First, the quality of life at home.  Second, their social experiences outside of the family setting.  Influence number one … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #8

#8  Develop your child’s gift.  As a follow-up to discovering your child’s gift, the next goal in the affirmation process is to help them develop their interests, talents, and skills.  If your child has the gift of service, find a … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #7

#7  Discover the gift in your child.  One of the most affirming things we can do for our children is to help them discover their gifts.  Again, as with almost every one of these suggestions, we would all nod in … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #6

#6  Minimize sibling rivalry.  One of the values in our home when the kids were young was to go beyond just teaching our children to “get along”.  We wanted to stretch them to the next level of actually enjoying and … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #5

#5  Nip the self-criticism.  Words have power, even our own words to ourselves.  And it is important to teach our children not to talk poorly about themselves.  But wait a minute.  Don’t we also want to instill a little humility into … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #4

#4  Give everyone an opportunity to speak.  It is natural for the conversation at your house to be dominated by the talkative types.  Depending on the age range and personality of your children, it may take a purposeful effort on your … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #3

#3  Give your children choices.  Children are empowered by the opportunity to choose.  Children are affirmed by the choices we give them.  And the power to choose often eliminates those showdowns over what really start as insignificant issues.  For example, Junior … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #2

#2  Be sensitive to your child’s thoughts and feelings.  How many times have you tried to enter a conversation and were abruptly ignored or passed over as if you weren’t even there?  How did it make you feel?  Hurt or insignificant … Continue reading

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29 Ways to Affirm Your Children – #1

“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures” (Prov 24:3-4).  The wisdom part of building a spiritually healthy home is learning from and teaching … Continue reading

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